tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5389207644710680983.post2906761711247148427..comments2024-03-28T10:52:22.519-05:00Comments on Texas Tales: Things You Shouldn't Say to a Mom of MultiplesAmberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14798231908190390732noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5389207644710680983.post-38077907645298102532013-06-07T08:41:09.858-05:002013-06-07T08:41:09.858-05:00Amazing ! This is cool!Amazing ! This is cool!acronymhttp://lawnmowersreviews2013.infonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5389207644710680983.post-91274839573723354492013-03-01T13:05:09.631-06:002013-03-01T13:05:09.631-06:00I recently had a conversation about this topic wit...I recently had a conversation about this topic with some moms who adopted and have gotten questions like, "How much was he?" On a smaller scale, we get lots of questions about our 2 yr old daughter's glasses and 9/10 times, we're asked if they are real or just decorations! I'm always tempted to respond with sarcasm but I do know that most people are genuinely interested and most of the time, don't mean any harm. Except for the man who said in passing, "Gee, look at them goggles on that little girl!" grrr.<br /><br />Thanks for the insight into how to act appropriately. It's blogs/posts like these that make me exra cautious and careful when faced with an unusual situation. Most of the time I say absolutely nothing, just smile at the beautiful sight of lots of little babies! I've said many prayers for you and your little ones since finding your blog and I think you're doing a great job and that your babies are incredibly cute!<br /><br />Heidi mommyoflove3https://www.blogger.com/profile/15960147429808863981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5389207644710680983.post-59611122966464310582013-02-28T23:14:07.400-06:002013-02-28T23:14:07.400-06:00Well I hope I didn't make or ask anything stup...Well I hope I didn't make or ask anything stupid and if I did sorry my mouth opened before I thought about how it sounded. I can do that you know.<br />Okay you cracked me up with your responses. You're doing great! And yes you will most likely encounter plenty of other idiots now that the quarantine is over and you go out into the world. Hang in there.Carlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16503798539178829225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5389207644710680983.post-62546076449937440572013-02-26T21:42:00.445-06:002013-02-26T21:42:00.445-06:00I'm a mom with a large family, including one s...I'm a mom with a large family, including one set of twins, too! We get lots of questions and comments as well. The worst was something about being misfits..........Anyway - I love your responses! Oftener though I get really nice comments especially from older people. First they stop and stare and obviously count; then they say something like, "Wow! That's a lot of kids! Are they all your's?"; then the next response is something along the lines of, "I come from a family of ______! It sure was a lot of fun!" kozimomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00705504784383943782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5389207644710680983.post-88245017358399115892013-02-25T20:23:56.228-06:002013-02-25T20:23:56.228-06:00I have babysat for a set of quadruplets since they...I have babysat for a set of quadruplets since they were newborns and are now four and it always made me a little upset to see strangers pull out their cameras or phones and obviously be taking pictures of them WITHOUT their mom's permission!! You are doing a fabulous job with those adorable babies!! I love all of your responses!Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16646760332194565141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5389207644710680983.post-33486570189829461562013-02-25T18:59:33.136-06:002013-02-25T18:59:33.136-06:00Whenever someone asks me if we were trying for fou...Whenever someone asks me if we were trying for four. I always say, "i'm a little surprised we only had four. I mean we were kind of going at it like rabbits that I expected that we would have ended up with closer to 20 or 30"Sean Ishumhttp://theishumquads.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5389207644710680983.post-1894844249012573492013-02-25T12:04:24.104-06:002013-02-25T12:04:24.104-06:00Thanks for this thoughtful response, Christine! It...Thanks for this thoughtful response, Christine! It truly is a two-sided fence. On the one hand, myself or other parents of multiples will be out trying to enjoy a dinner as a family when strangers frequently persist on asking questions that really have no merit and are strictly curious—like we're a circus attraction. It wastes our time and intrudes on the rare occasions we're trying to be together in public. But on the flip side, I've had several very meaningful conversations with others who might be struggling to start a family or are scared to death at the thought of just having one child and I'm able to either shed light on the subject or be an encouragement. I value those exchanges because I feel they're also why we were blessed with quadruplets—to share with and inspire others. Most of the time, a warm smile or a very quick comment to say how beautiful the children are, how much you admire the mom or how encouraging it is to see a large family is more than enough to keep us going through our day but not make us feel infringed upon or like we are a public exhibit. :)Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14798231908190390732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5389207644710680983.post-18217848951403630082013-02-25T10:19:45.162-06:002013-02-25T10:19:45.162-06:00Though I am single, I have always had a fascinatio...Though I am single, I have always had a fascination with multiples and adopted children. I often read blogs about this very subject matter, don't say this and this to this group of people. Though there is always truth to what they are saying I find it can be a little crass. I understand that people truly are just venting but as a single person, longing for the day when I might share in the joys of parenting I always get a little hurt when I hear people sharing about the different ways to comment to strangers questions.<br />Yours was the first entry that I've read that actually left me thinking about my actions. When you said that it takes your time to answer questions, honest and unoffensive as they may be, that had me reevaluate. In the past I have always tried to phrase questions so that they weren't offensive, I never thought that I don't always have the right to stop a person and demand their attention, regardless of how excited I am. I was reminded of the time I saw a woman in Wal*Mart with her beautiful set of Quads and how I probably shouldn't have stopped her to gap and gaw at her children. <br />Perhaps from now on I'll pray and ask the Holy Spirit if it's an okay time to say something to a family or to just admire from a distance. Thank you so much for your food for thought! Christine.Danielle.Normanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00770183072974134104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5389207644710680983.post-57217464995429768482013-02-25T00:14:28.790-06:002013-02-25T00:14:28.790-06:00I think people are envious truth to be said. What ...I think people are envious truth to be said. What a blessing to have four beautiful kids who will share life together! It is hard work for the parents, yes, but what could be more rewarding!? I have four kids in less than six years and have enjoyed so much. And I too got some nasty comments, too. Like it was anyone's business to tell how many kids I had. I do see that the comments you get are sometimes very irritating. But like I said they are simply envious! Hugs from Finland.Juttahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02904813944685123447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5389207644710680983.post-30565580280250841542013-02-24T21:15:27.777-06:002013-02-24T21:15:27.777-06:00I found your mother's blog and spent your last...I found your mother's blog and spent your last several months in the hospital praying for the babies. I was so devastated at the thought of your loosing Harrison, and the 3 little girls' loss. I'm so thankful he is doing well. You are the BEST possible mother for those 4. I have never known anyone so organized as you, to the point of making all of their organic food! God's hand has been on y'all, and the babies will grow up in a wonderful Christian household!Gramhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18272261970817312208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5389207644710680983.post-45428472435774299892013-02-24T17:45:13.556-06:002013-02-24T17:45:13.556-06:00I am the oldest of 10 kids. All our lives we'...I am the oldest of 10 kids. All our lives we've gotten things like "You are all brothers and sisters? Guess your parents didn't have much to do with their time." Don't know why people are like that, but they are. We think our 10 kid family is perfect the way it is. <br /><br />I greatly admire you and your "snarky" answers. Don't know that I would have the presence of mind to think of those answers so quickly (or the nerve to say them). I am so happy that both you and the quads are healthy and happy. <br /><br />And yours are not the first quads I have seen. The library that I used to work at had a three girl, one boy set of quads and everyone loved them.Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05673288414533354350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5389207644710680983.post-10654752588744929892013-02-24T14:07:50.956-06:002013-02-24T14:07:50.956-06:00As a mom to a large family (and one set of twins),...As a mom to a large family (and one set of twins), I also get my fair share of rude/weird questions and staring onlookers. It is definitely something I will never understand and still have difficulty adjusting to. Questions like "are they all yours?", "you do know what causes that, right?" and "wow, being a mom must be so hard for you!" These questions make me cringe every time! I love your responses :)Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12569617739677489237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5389207644710680983.post-37117093735362164792013-02-24T13:12:40.510-06:002013-02-24T13:12:40.510-06:00Love this Amber!! I've gotten all of the quest...Love this Amber!! I've gotten all of the questions/comments many times! The IVF one is usually the second question after "Are those all YOUR babies?!" I will say I get way more positive comments than negative and I try to remind myself people are curious and don't think before they speak or ask questions. I love your snarky responses :)Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15987431692614475534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5389207644710680983.post-82070361619089267932013-02-24T12:38:09.970-06:002013-02-24T12:38:09.970-06:00Oh you cracked me up with this one! Sometimes peo...Oh you cracked me up with this one! Sometimes people say the darndest things. We haven't been out in public often due to lock down, but I think most people around here have been exceptionally nice. I slough things off pretty easily and know questions that seem rude are usually just because of curiosity, ignorance or both. I just try to keep a sense of humor about it all. When people marvel and say stuff like, "Wow, I've never seen quads before!" I reply, "We hadn't either!" It's true, before having quads we had never seen them before and have only see one set (the Gerwers) in person. The biggest problem is that all the questions just slow us down. We've joked about making a banner for the Runabout that says, "Bet ya' got a lot of questions. Please visit our blog at www.fourtoadore.wordpress.com" <br />Recently, we've been hearing a lot of, "When I get overwhelmed, I think of you guys." I was sort of offended at first like my life is bad, but thinking about it I take it as, "You really have a ton on your plate, and manage it all so well. Impressive!"Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16037459169463515676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5389207644710680983.post-83137240460106193932013-02-24T10:39:12.743-06:002013-02-24T10:39:12.743-06:00I cannot believe how ignorant people can be with t...I cannot believe how ignorant people can be with thier stupid questions and comments.<br />Good luck keeping people from trying to touch the babies,that has to be the biggest annoyance of all Moms with infants.<br />I am sure you and Mike will handle everything very well.You have been doing great so far:) <br />Take Care <br /><br />Bernicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14792963039328467845noreply@blogger.com